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demands slowly close in on her, as if she were a character buried

alive in an Edgar Allan Poe story. Sometimes it is a militant conformity. She will save herself by proving that she is loyal, obedient, useful, even fanatic in the service of the men around her.

She is the happy hooker, the happy homemaker, the exemplary

Christian, the pure academic, the perfect comrade, the terrorist par

excellence. Whatever the values, she will embody them with a perfect fidelity. The males rarely keep their part of the bargain as she understands it: protection from male violence against her person.

But the militant conformist has given so much of herself—her la­

bor, heart, soul, often her body, often children— that this betrayal

is akin to nailing the coffin shut; the corpse is beyond caring.

Women know, but must not acknowledge, that resisting male

control or confronting male betrayal w ill lead to rape, battery, destitution, ostracization or exile, confinement in a mental institution or jail, or death. As Phyllis Chesler and Emily Jane Goodman

make clear in W omen, M oney, and P ow er, women struggle, in the

manner of Sisyphus, to avoid the “something worse” that can and

w ill alw ays happen to them if they transgress the rigid boundaries

of appropriate female behavior. Most women cannot afford, either

m aterially or psychologically, to recognize that whatever burnt offerings of obedience they bring to beg protection w ill not appease the angry little gods around them.

It is not surprising, then, that most girls do not want to become

like their mothers, those tired, preoccupied domestic sergeants beset by incomprehensible troubles. Mothers raise daughters to conform to the strictures of the conventional female life as defined by men, whatever the ideological values of the men. Mothers are the

immediate enforcers of male w ill, the guards at the cell door, the

flunkies who administer the electric shocks to punish rebellion.

Most girls, however much they resent their mothers, do become

very much like them. Rebellion can rarely survive the aversion

therapy that passes for being brought up female. Male violence acts

directly on the girl through her father or brother or uncle or any

number of male professionals or strangers, as it did and does on her

mother, and she too is forced to learn to conform in order to survive. A girl m ay, as she enters adulthood, repudiate the particular set of males with whom her mother is allied, run with a different

pack as it were, but she will replicate her mother’s patterns in acquiescing to male authority within her own chosen set. Using both force and threat, men in all camps demand that women accept

abuse in silence and shame, tie themselves to hearth and home with

rope made of self-blame, unspoken rage, grief, and resentment.

It is the fashion among men to despise the smallness of women’s

lives. The so-called bourgeois woman with her shallow vanity, for

instance, is a joke to the brave intellectuals, truck drivers, and revolutionaries who have wider horizons on which to project and indulge deeper vanities that women dare not mock and to which women dare not aspire. The fishwife is a vicious caricature of the

small-mindedness and material greed of the working-class wife who

harasses her humble, hardworking, ever patient husband with

petty tirades of insult that no gentle rebuke can mellow. The Lady,

the Aristocrat, is a polished, empty shell, good only for spitting at,

because spit shows up on her clean exterior, which gives immediate

gratification to the spitter, whatever his technique. The Jewish

mother is a monster who wants to cut the phallus of her precious

son into a million pieces and put it in the chicken soup. The black

woman, also a castrator, is a grotesque matriarch whose sheer endurance desolates men. The lesbian is half monster, half moron: having no man to nag, she imagines herself Napoleon.

And the derision of female lives does not stop with these toxic,

ugly, insidious slanders because there is always, in every circumstance, the derision in its skeletal form, all bone, the meat stripped clean: she is pussy, cunt. Every other part of the body is cut away,

severed, and there is left a thing, not human, an it, which is the

funniest joke of all, an unending source of raucous humor to those

who have done the cutting. The very butchers who cut up the

meat and throw away the useless parts are the comedians. The